Yuku free message boards

Hi alinag,
I know how it feels to grow up in a household with NPD's. My mother was the ringleader and dad just followed along, he was whipped, co-dependent N himself. I got there mental abuse from both of them. When I was around 16 I told myself " I can't wait to get the hell outta here". When I was 18 I said the same, when I was 20, I was financially stable enough to pay for an apartment and finally got the hell out. My father called that until I was a matured adult 'running away'. I told him no "I moved out". Now that I think back upon it after just finding out about NPD a few weeks ago at the age of 49, yes "I did run away". The best thing for you to do is study up on this disease, research all you can about children who have NPD's as parents. The best information I found is from suffer's themselves and not so called internet psychologists or folks writing books about the subject, they usually are off on the subject. If folks have not gone through it themselves they will never understand what we go through. You will end up crazy if you sucumb to them. I guess I was rebellious so I was not sucked into being a N just like them. I have compassion, I have empathy and I can love.
Just make sure that you can support yourself and never look back. You have to keep them on the sidelines, believe me they will still try to suck the life out of you even from the sidelines! Don't expect any help from them either. It is usually a manipulative ploy if they offer help, there is something always behind it, that they can make you feel quilty of or owe them of.

Alyx