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Traped

feeds@yuku.com (JustSomeone) — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 02:58:20 GMT

Hi all

First, let me ask to excuse my English, its not my native language.

Im here after doing some research and having found that my girlfriend is quite probably a NPD. After some recent events i am completely lost and i dont know what to do or how to proceed. I will now tell my story:

We have been a relatively happy for two years and some months. I always thought that she was a bit self-centric and with odd mood swings but she compensated with fun and care most...

NPD on Match.com 1 month after cancelled wedding????

feeds@yuku.com (mocatmac) — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 09:02:36 GMT

We were supposed to get married 2 months ago affter having been together 3 years and living together for 2. Things seemed to change earlier this year when I discovered that he was secretly visiting porn websites (in addition to the 30+ tapes he already has) and making me pay for the Internet because he "never used it." I was disgusted and became distrustful of him. Huge fights ensued off and on over situations in which I found him to be cold, cruel, and inconsiderate (e.g.,...

Attracting A Person With NPD

feeds@yuku.com (crazydude) — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 08:25:30 GMT

Well, I have known the same girl for 5 years. She has NPD. I've made the diagnosis myself.

Anyway, we are just friends, but I am in love with her.

She is actually quite honest with me, because she told me that she wanted me not to care about her.
She admits she is selfish, and she admits that she has no empathy and that people are nothing more
than interchangeable objects to her.

When I told her I loved her once, she told me she couldn't see me...

Ex husband with NPD and can't seem to let him go

feeds@yuku.com (stargazed) — Sat, 11 Apr 2009 09:53:31 GMT

I am here because I need help letting go of an NPD. This man has really emotionally hurt me and I can not seem to let him go. Yes, I am better than I was before, but still I don't want to let him go. Things between and me were great than all of sudden he flew to his hometown and abruptly divorced me because he found another girl. Is this normal? For someone with NPD do abandon you, and his excuses did not make sense. When things were going so well, but all of a sudden I did not mean...

Survey for current or former partners of persons with NPD

feeds@yuku.com (twinston) — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 17:00:09 GMT

Hello, my name is Talya Winston. I am a Psychology major at University of Arizona. I have been focusing my studies on Narcissistic Personality Disorder since I began dating an individual with the disorder about a year ago. As part of my ongoing research, I have put together a survey designed to be taken by former or current partners of individuals with the disorder. It would be extremely helpful to my research if you could take the time to complete this short, 20 question survey. Thanks in...

My previous psychologist had NPD....

feeds@yuku.com (Doris Heeke) — Mon, 23 Mar 2009 19:13:31 GMT

When I first met him, he was a pastor of a medium size church. I counceled with him at the church. He was asked to leave the church because as a senior pastor, he never took time to develop his staff or even spend time with them. He went into couseling full time. I started going to him when he began counseling full time. He was so charming and acted so humble, but dropped names and talked like he new very important people and had unlimited knowledge. He found out I was a work aholic...

Dragged back into an NPD marriage

feeds@yuku.com (skybluepink) — Mon, 09 Mar 2009 04:31:38 GMT

We have been married almost 7 years. He is a Texan and I am English. He literally swept me off my feet and I moved over to the USA where we were married. From the very day of our marriage the problems began. He has not been diagnosed with NPD, but I was a previous member of the MSN message board where I was helped and guided through the nightmare of my life with him.
My only hope was to escape back to the UK to get away from him which I did in 2007. I spent a blissful year, got my...

At my wit's end

feeds@yuku.com (laststraw) — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 09:41:59 GMT

I just found this site today and hope that I can gain some sort of knowledge from others. From all that I have been reading, I believe my husband has NPD. We've been married for 15 years. I'm his 5th wife. All of the others were very short-lived. My husband has this unnatural desire to be loved. By unnatural I mean, that he expects every woman he comes in contact with to fall at his feet and idolize him. At first, I just passed it off as harmless flirting but over the years it has...

questions about spouse(help)

feeds@yuku.com (teeny) — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 10:06:12 GMT

I just found this forum after doing some research today. My husband and I have been married for 13 yrs, we met and married when we were very young and proceeded to have children right away. During the first few years of our marriage he left me numerous times to be with other women, degraded me by making me feel like I had to beg him to stay, told me I was disgusting, etc. basically anything hateful you could think of, now I always took him back for my children's sake and tried to...

advice?

feeds@yuku.com (trickylittleminx) — Sat, 26 Jul 2008 18:29:25 GMT

it's been a little over a week since i got out of my year long torment with a narcissist. i only ever remember him once talking about something that had nothing to do with him...the first time i met him.

after that, everything revolved around him. he inflated his talents, expected people to drop their lives and careers for his "art," and eventually, after a few months of temper tantrums, charm, whining, and guilt for abandoning him during the day when he had a...

is my friend a narcissist?

feeds@yuku.com (angelicusmaximus) — Mon, 17 Dec 2007 14:53:39 GMT

I met Jason about a year ago. When I first met him the first thing i thought was "you've got a huge ego". But then he was all charming and friendly, and I really thought he was nice. After a few months he asked me out. Our first date was an invitation to his house, bought me some alcohol, then when drunk enough, we did the wild thing. Same thing the next night. Then no contact. When questioning him if we were in a relationship he said " i had been given the opportunity...

I have BPD and I Live with some who I think has NPD

feeds@yuku.com (clummies) — Mon, 19 Nov 2007 02:03:41 GMT

I was wondering how, or if anyone has experienced the same thing as I am going through. I have lived with this guy for 12 years.......my god have we had our ups and downs like most couples. However, his insensativity is now killing me. He is not tactile, when it comes to sex which really is a major problem for me, all he wants is for me to do things to him, he is rude, arrogent, and and wants someone to look after him. I feel so empty because I have been with him for so long, although I...

X of a narcissist

feeds@yuku.com (booboofixer) — Wed, 18 Apr 2007 11:47:29 GMT

I am just now learning that my X husband (have been divorced for 8 years now) is possibly NPD. For the last 5 years we have still been "seeing" each other, even though he is living with another woman. Me and our children are the only ones that he seems to treat badly. Is it possible that his narcissistic qualities only come out where we are concerned? That he is still able to fool and charm his present girlfriend, family, etc,....How come we seem to be the blunt of his bad...

pls read this and let me know

feeds@yuku.com (mypost) — Sun, 25 Mar 2007 13:24:47 GMT

Hi ervyone,
I am feeling extemely bad while emailing this.
I have been married to him for the last seven yrs.
Never a single day has he listened to me,my dreams,my plans,my love for him..anythign at all
always hekeeps telling that i dont love him.
I try to keep him happy by prasiinng and applading him all the time but i cannot satisfy him stil..
he doesnt have any social friends.but in his work everyone likes him bcoz of the way he talks.
henever likes goign to anyones...

I think my husband is NPD

feeds@yuku.com (ldmessing) — Thu, 08 Mar 2007 19:07:16 GMT

he constantly brags about how he does everything around here, and I do nothing. He can't do something nice, just to be nice, he has to brag about it, and demands that I "praise" him over and over again. Usually not even giving me a chance to thank him before he lays into me.

he flies off the handle over the most stupid things. If god forbid, someone is more interested in talking to me than him (at a party, dinner, etc) then I get yelled at all the way home that he couldn't...

need input....in love with a guy who WAS married to a NPD

feeds@yuku.com (wondering) — Sat, 15 Jul 2006 05:59:05 GMT

My situation is a little different......I'm in love with a guy who was married to a woman with NPD. Right now we're best friends (his definition). He's hesitant re a relationship in part due to timing, but also his x's issues. She was apparently 'all that and a bag of chips' in their 2 yrs together before marrigae, and then the craziness started..So, what seems right, also seems like it could be fake...
He wants to find love again, but retains the BUTs...cyberpaths.blogspot.com

I still love him and want to stay, advice?

feeds@yuku.com (thewig) — Mon, 09 Feb 2004 18:58:56 GMT

Help, he is driving me crazy. All the signs of NPD and regardless I still love him and want it too work. The criticism, judgement, accusations, denial is getting on my nerves and I am starting to resent him. He acts contemptuous towards me, and gets angry often with temper tantrums. Lots of blame and never takes responsibility of his part. Is there anything I can do besides leave? I love him and want it too work. We are both doing drugs and its tearing us apart. I want to quit and...