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Long-time NPD mother

feeds@yuku.com (TLAnpdforum) — Sat, 05 Dec 2009 20:37:18 GMT

I'm a 40-yr old married father of two with an 80-yr-old mother who meets 7 of the 9 NPD criteria in DSM (based on my amateur assessment). At best, she is difficult to have a conversation or spend time with,...

New Facebook group

feeds@yuku.com (sallyanne) — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 11:59:44 GMT

Hello

I wondered if it would be ok to post a message to inform your members here about a new Facebook group that I have set up for Adult...

Another Narcissistic Mother

feeds@yuku.com (Izzen) — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 16:30:23 GMT

Sorry to post on the same topics, but I didn't want to derail other people's conversations, as I have a lot to get out.

I was an only child until the age of 9, and due to my father's job as a Naval Officer I was left alone with my Narcissistic parent nearly 24/7 for intermittent spans of a few months to a year plus. I've always felt that I was "in the way" in her eyes; though she has touted to me her lifelong aspiration of being a good mother and homemaker,...

How to Cope Living With An NPD Parent?

feeds@yuku.com (sheanna) — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 13:57:21 GMT

Hi people who are reading this

Thought this might make a good topic. If any of you have read my other post you might know that I am 13 years old and living with an NPD mother and a father who is frankly, for want of a better word, losing it. I think my mother has been emotionally abusing me for years but has not been able to...

terrified of guilt

feeds@yuku.com (adarnette) — Sun, 31 May 2009 21:23:32 GMT

I've never posted on a forum before ever, but after a lifetime with an npd mother who like most npds I guess will never go to treatment and basically can't change, I feel this need to talk to other people who understand. Growing up, I always thought OH BOY do I have a sensitive mother. The smallest, most insignificant thing would get swept away in a histrionic temper tantrum at the very injustice of the matter. At the same time however, to others she could never understand why they...

Where do I go from here?

feeds@yuku.com (Hettie) — Sun, 19 Apr 2009 15:39:50 GMT

My mother has NPD, my father died suddenly when I was 20 and I have three younger brothers. My mother's insults and generally cold and callous attitude was always directed at me, the oldest girl, rather than at my three younger brothers, although she could be extremely bad to them as well. It was obvious to me that I was her main target, even when I was a young child. After my father died there was no-one to try and control her behaviour as my brothers never stood up to her. Her...

How should I handle my mom babysitting my child?

feeds@yuku.com (louisejane) — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 12:51:44 GMT

I have a new baby and I don't know how I should handle my mother babysitting her. She has come over with my Dad before and that makes it better, but sometimes she comes over alone and that makes me nervous. Once when she babysat for a few hours my daughter cried most of the time and would not take a bottle. I don't know if she was just not feeling well that day or if it was my mother. I can already see things happening that make me uneasy, like calling her "spoiled" at 3...

How should I handle my mom babysitting my child?

feeds@yuku.com (louisejane) — Tue, 01 Jul 2008 12:51:29 GMT

Anyone know of a book or article that could help the spouse of a child of NPD parent?

feeds@yuku.com (MiddleWay) — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 10:15:44 GMT

Hi: Want to be able to point my husband to some article or book that can explain what it's like to grow up as the child of an NPD father (who was also my pastor). He thinks that his childhood must have been just as bad because his Dad sometimes yelled at his Mom. I'm not trying to win any kind of Unhappiest Childhood award, but I think if he understood the abuse my brother and sisters and I experienced at a soul level, he would be more understanding of the pain. Thanks for any...

In shock. Please help me.

feeds@yuku.com (Powerpuffgirl) — Fri, 26 Oct 2007 04:49:30 GMT

Hello everybody.

I feel very lonely since I found out about my mother's illness and I am hoping to get some replies here. Nobody seems to be able to understand what it means to realise that all these year, what I always thought was MY problem, that I was going crazy, etc, is actually her problem, NPD.
My father commited suicide because of her and I have tried several times to do the same without succeeding. My brother went through the same, but my sister is the only one that seems...

Does my mother have narcissism?

feeds@yuku.com (ArtemisMoon) — Tue, 16 Oct 2007 17:25:09 GMT

I apologize for the length - I've never posted on a board like this.

I'm a 37 year old female with an 8-month-old baby daugher. I'm happily married. For years I've struggled with the relationship that I have with my mother. She lives out of state and I'm going to visit her soon, and I'm riddled with anxiety.

I was born out of wedlock. My dad was in the picture, so it was like a common-law marriage. My mom had immigrant parents: my grandfather was an alcoholic and my...

advice needed - just realized

feeds@yuku.com (sookie) — Wed, 16 Nov 2005 18:21:02 GMT

Hi there,
I'm just wondering if anyone out there has any thoughts...

It's only just occurred to me that my father-in-law's behaviour might be worth some research and, lo-and-behold, every box is ticked. My husband, an only child, has suddenly some to realise how he and his mother have been manipulated and controlled by a man who either sees cardboard cut-outs, shining heroes (that can pull him up to his rightful place in society) or deadly enemies (that have kept him down). He has...

listener

feeds@yuku.com (Unregistered(d)) — Sun, 06 Jun 2004 18:21:29 GMT

i only recently learned the title of the behavior problem i grew up around and amongst. my mother was in fact held up for ridicule, etc., as a child and spent many afternoons reliving the incidents in tales to me as I was growing up. we all pitied her greatly and gave in to every whelm. it was in my 30s that i realized this was manipulation. i have since opened my eyes to the fact that those closest to her have had to also experience the pain she experienced, it was a must devised by her....

Narcissistic Mother-healing

feeds@yuku.com (Unregistered(d)) — Tue, 30 Mar 2004 23:33:18 GMT

Finally, finally I can put a name to the craziness that my father, my brothers and me have suffered through with my mother.

By the time I was 13 years old, I knew that in her mind, it was all about her. If I was having trouble in school, she'd wonder what her friends would think. Her abuse was verbal, emotional and in many ways, constant.

I was adopted, but she never told me. I discovered it myself at 27, when I saw my birth certificate for the first time. She could have...