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Can this narcissist/codependent relationship be saved?

feeds@yuku.com (David35216) — Sat, 12 Dec 2009 12:19:12 GMT

Just like most people who search for a place such as this one, I'm desperate. (Or I assume others are desperate when they seek help.) I have two related problems. I will describe the first one, which I'm already working on, and then the second one, which is what I'm mostly here seeking help for.

First, I have had some narcissistic tendencies for years, but I didn't realize it until a psychologist showed me what was going on in my life earlier this year during a...

I think my sister has NPD

feeds@yuku.com (StaceyLynn) — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 08:24:58 GMT

nevermind.

HI I'm new and would like some advice please

feeds@yuku.com (comet) — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 07:21:33 GMT

Hi,

I am a child of a parent that is a narcissist. I have been traumatisred and have great ptsd with flashbacks and continual chatter from her. I tried to work and then I found that at each job, because I couldn't do it pertectly, and because I was beaten up emotionally and physically by mother and emotionally by my Father even to this day, that I panic and feel bad and that I then compare myself to other people and give up totally.

This has destroyed my marriage -...

Please help!

feeds@yuku.com (alinag) — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 10:56:50 GMT

Hi, I really need help, I can't describe how screwed up my situation is! My mother has NPD and my dad is either a co-dependent or has BPD. I am really emotionally screwed up and unstable, I have no sense of self, my personal relationships suck, and I feel like I'm living in hell. My parents have been neglectful, but I've noticed it when I went away to college last year. They don't care, they just want to keep their image up. I went to a psychiatrist yesterday and she said I...

Can anyone please help out?

feeds@yuku.com (alinag) — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 15:55:22 GMT

I know I can't diagnose my father, but I'm pretty sure he has NPD. I'm 19 years old and while I can't understand how emotionally abusive he is, I've always thought that there was something wrong or he was sick in the head. I've read up a bit on NPD and some of the stories here on the forum really scare me. I'm scared to move on with life because what if getting out is the right option and I'm not acting on it. I know I'm freaking out, but I don't want...

My son's marrying a narcissit...help!

feeds@yuku.com (hoohoo) — Mon, 25 May 2009 23:16:01 GMT

Our son is marrying a narcissist in a little over two weeks. This woman, after what my husband and I thought was a nice dinner out, said the "air needed to be cleared" as we were about to leave the table at the end of dinner. She then preceded to verbally abuse me. My mistake had been earlier, last week as I drove our son to a post-op doctor's appointment I expressed my/our reservations about his fiancee and talked to him concerning her behavior at her bridal shower the...

Just realized my mother has NPD -- What do I do?

feeds@yuku.com (kever) — Thu, 23 Apr 2009 15:53:55 GMT

THE CONTEXT:

I've always had a troubled relationship with my mother. I'm 22, finishing university. I'm working, I'm successful at the university, what with extracurriculars, good grades, scholarships and awards. But none of it is ever enough for her. When I speak to her, and I tell her about the good things I have done...she just ignores them and goes onto talking about herself. I recently opted not to tell...

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feeds@yuku.com (alabamagal) — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 11:02:52 GMT

help is anyone out there?!

feeds@yuku.com (nellie) — Sun, 29 Mar 2009 13:54:02 GMT

Hi I posted my story on the topic struggling with an npd mom before I learned my way around still learnimg.If someone out there could read it and get back to me it would be great I need all the support I can get.My story is about my step-son.

NPD HUSBAND IS TOXIC...HOW CAN I LEAVE, BUT HOW CAN I STAY

feeds@yuku.com (behappy25) — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 05:05:07 GMT

I feel shattered by my life with Narcisstic husband (and his family too). He is verbally abusive and manipulative and has no feelings of care and compassion towards me whatsover.
I often feel taken advantage of my him, and when I try to call him on it he just abuses me more. I AM IN MISERY. I was always a happy, loving and fun person- My spirit and soul have been crushed by this man. Recently, I have had severe medical issues and needed his support- instead I find him always take from...

Please tell me this is not hopeless

feeds@yuku.com (travisp) — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 07:59:16 GMT

I'm looking for at least ONE success story here, from everything I'm seeing, this doesn't look good.

I have yet to start counseling - I'm beginning next week, but what I've read on NPD to this point it looks as though this is what is going on with me. I am 38 years old, have been divorced twice, and am currently separated from my girlfriend. Much of the symptoms I've suffered from as long as I can remember. Without an official diagnosis, I obviously...

I think my sister may have NPD?

feeds@yuku.com (brambletess) — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 13:25:43 GMT

I don't really know if my sister has NPD, I have only recently started to think she could be. We have never had a good relationship, she always put me down, derided me, manipulated me, called me names and generally made my life miserable as a child. As an adult we have had spells of not communicating and she has been abusive on and off during this time. It is confusing as she sometimes wants to do nice things and help me, she wanted me to live in and manage a flat she was renting out. I...

Sister with NPD

feeds@yuku.com (erin) — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 05:40:59 GMT

A couple of months ago my older sister began to go to therapy and was diagnosed with (amongst other things) NPD.

It's just hard coming to the realisation that I'll most probably never have a 'normal' relationship with her. All I want is a sister, someone I can talk to and hang out with and just do all the normal sisterly stuff with, hell even a sister who when I ask "how was your day?" answers then asks me how mine was. But considering that in 21 years I...

Having a brother with NPD - from a male's perspective

feeds@yuku.com (Ballcap) — Sun, 26 Oct 2008 01:29:37 GMT

Hello, all. I just stumbled onto this website while reading up about narcissism, and I feel like it is a great place to share my experiences. I am a 26 year old black male, and I feel that my older brother has NPD. He does not have an official diagnosis, but he definitely fits all the symptoms.

I do not mean to offend anyone with the title, but most of the posts on the website seem to be from women. I sure you all don't need convincing, but guys who grow up with family...

My Brother's Situation...I Believe His Wife has NPD

feeds@yuku.com (PokerPal) — Fri, 24 Oct 2008 06:02:11 GMT

Hello. I am new to this, so I will attempt to explain the situation that is going on with my brother and his wife. He has been married for 3 years and has a 2 year old son.

We always thought that something was "not quite right" about his wife. She has lots of the characteristics of NPD, like inappropriate emotions or no emotion (coldness), needy, self centered, moods fluctate "jekyl and hide", lack of empathy, controlling, manipulative, critical, anti social,...

New to Forum

feeds@yuku.com (diane clare) — Wed, 28 May 2008 08:50:27 GMT

Hello all! I'm new to this and nervous. My husband and I moved from Alaska to Arkansas about 1 1/2 yrs ago to be with one of my brothers. We had talked for several years about the 3 of us living together and building a little family and support unit (none of us has children). All seemed fine. We did it and sunk tons of $$ in a new house, etc. Now, we think my brother is pretty much NPD. My mother (still living) definitely is NPD as I discovered late in life through therapy. I feel pretty...

I'm a bit sussed that my mum has NPD - please can you help as I feel really alone with this

feeds@yuku.com (sampritch27) — Mon, 21 Apr 2008 10:30:42 GMT

Hi there,